"Changing Thoughts....Changes Feelings...Changes Your Life!"
I am guilty of living in auto pilot mode and this numb state serves a purpose in my busy world. But this keeps me stuck in a rut focused on my own world and forgetting to take a moment to understand what I do affects others. I am just "DOING." Busy doing keeps me disconnected from everyone including myself. This disconnect helps me get things done in a fast pace world but also shuts off my emotions leaving me feeling empty and acting selfish.
In the turn of events this past week our world has experienced so much anger towards injustice and rightfully so. I wonder how much of this frustration is because of people like me who have been so busy in auto pilot mode and have not stopped to see the injustice happening right in front of me. I am ashamed of my ignorance I had towards the inequality going on around me. The sadness I felt when I saw injustice happen but thinking it was rare injustice not a regular occurrence. And how different I would feel if this was my child. The RAGE...
The new normal for many people is trying to figure out how to work from home with kids. It doesn't matter the age of your children, all ages presents it's challenges. I have a 15 year old at home and he definitely believes he knows more than me and he doesn't need any structure. The parents with first through fifth graders at home are struggling with completely different issues. As I talk to my clients, I hear frustration from ages 2 to 21!
Working from home already has its unique challenges like: HOW DO WE GET ALL OUR WORK DONE WITH ONLY A COMPUTER? We are finding out some things are not available without in person contact. Also video meetings have their own frustrations like connection issues, interruptions, and not being able to read body language. Yes there are perks working from home but I am definitely seeing there are frustrations.
This all would be easier to handle if we didn't have the added stress of children at home needing help with school, food and...
(6) Ways To Kick Your Butt When Feeling Unmotivated
I am feeling very unmotivated with very low energy levels this past couple weeks. How many of you are feeling this dip? What is it? I have time to get projects done and do the long list of stuff I never have time to do BUT I don't want to do any of them! Why? I am an extravert and it is easy to see how NOT having people around me may be affecting me but are introverts feeling the same lack of drive?
How is connection to friends, co-workers, work performance, etc.. related to our drive or mental health? This connection with others is rooted to our emotional well being even for introverts. We are in this huge pause and how is this pause affecting our ability to connect with those around us. There are many opportunities to connect thru social media, zoom, phone, etc.. and a good share of people who are working from home are using these formats but are still feeling this lack of motivation.
There are many factors to consider and one...
People are funny about wanting routine in their life. How many of you get up in the middle of the night and go to the bathroom without turning on a light? I do. This is because I know the path to the bathroom and I can do it half asleep. Plus I don't want to wake up too much so it's easy to fall back asleep quickly. Routines keep us on moving without having to think. For some of us there is a small amount of their life is routine and for others most of their day/week is the same because routine feels like a security blanket. And when we live in a world where constant change is happening with no end in sight about "normal" coming back this can feel unsettling for those who cherish routine. I call this routine going into auto pilot mode.
Auto pilot is an amazing thing to keep us from having to interpret everything we do and making decisions. It is common for many of us to love automation when it comes to: getting dressed, how to drive our car, walking, going to the...
So many us have been affected by the Covid-19. There are many reasons why fear sets in: the possibility of the vulnerable loved ones getting sick like: children, elderly or those with weakened immune system, who will be quarantined and if so, for how long, how will this affect the economy or my pocket book, how will this impact us globally. Yes no one wants to get sick but the illness is not what will affect us the most this year, its the financial stress this will put on everyone. Most people will recover but the hit this will have on the entire world is hard to wrap our brains around. When we start to think about how this POTENTIALLY could affect us, we have a choice to allow fear or love guide us. Your choice! These thoughts have power! Fear is normal to have and actually is there as a checks and balance to ensure you take the time to think about our choices. Fear also can be crippling. Fear only becomes...
How do we get fear?
If you have read any of my post you will know I talk about the 60,000 thoughts we have each day. Most of the those thoughts we do not speak. This means we have ALOT of private conversations in our head influencing how we feel about what's happening to us and directly affecting what we do. This is the key to making a lasting change in ANY area of our lives. Our mind has POWER! When we realize change starts with understanding those private conversations we have in our head...this is when you stop the destructive cycle of allowing life to HAPPEN to you and start leading!
Fear or Courage Directing Your Life?
Today I am talking about how we stop allowing fear to control our lives. So many factors of our life need action and we have a choice to allow fear or courage to direct us. Your choice! We all know this is truth because we have all had amazing ideas and after some time thinking about it we come up with a million excuses as to why we CAN'T. Fear is the...
Laughter is the best medicine!
Last week was a rough week as my father in law went into the hospital with brain injury and is in serious condition. I went over to a friends house Saturday eve and I laughed until my face and stomach hurt. I didn't want to go because I was exhausted but I did and it was well worth the energy it took to get out the door.
When was the last time you sat down and uncontrollably laughed? We all need this medicine for many reasons and below I have listed a few but I want to relate laughter to getting you unstuck! We have all experienced times where we felt stuck in an area of our life. The stuck feeling usually can make us feel stressed.
Stress shows up different for everyone like:
Where? poor sleeping, debt, difficult relationships and/or work pressures. How we choose to respond will make the difference in getting ourselves unstuck in life. And our response to stress is directly linked to how happy we are.
How we describe...
Our conversations in our head give us so many excuses as to why we can't succeed with our health. Our excuses feel like truth for us and they keep us stuck. We are just lying to ourselves! We say so many untrue things so we can justify our actions or inaction.
The 60,000 thoughts we all have each day bring in a lot of unnecessary conversations with ourself. There are 5x more words we say to ourself than the words we say out loud. This means we have 5x more influence with the conversations we have in our head with OURSELF. Our words have POWER!!! When we decide to pay attention to those words is when we can start making a lasting change.
The key to making a lasting change is looking at those conversations in our head and lining them up with our beliefs so making decisions is easy! When I say easy I mean like getting dressed everyday. Have you ever wondered why some things you want are easy and just happen? And other things you really want seems impossible? There is...
So often we think we need to be 100 percent perfect with our diet to actually lose weight or to even maintain our weight. But in reality this is far from the truth. How accurately we see what kind of food we eat, how much food we eat and how much movement is in our life is the key to success. Our perspective plays a huge role in how much weight we lose. I have this rule if 80 percent of the time you eat healthy and 20 percent you eat unhealthy you will be able to maintain your weight and some people will even lose weight. Most people are very skewed on what they are actually eating and how much movement they doing. This is key to make any changes especially lasting changes.
How do we know if we are skewed in how much healthy eating we do? The key is really taking a close look at our perspective. We must know the truth about what we are eating and how much. So often we guess and this can definitely give us a false answer. Let me give you an example: if you are baking cookies...
How Do We Lose The Weight Forever?
This statistic is alarming. Most of us at some point in our life have been on a mission to lose weight or become healthier in our choices so we have more energy, have a world wide health scare or have some event where we want to look our best. The facts are 80% of people who lose at least 10% of their body weight gain the weight back if not more. What is the missing link in this? I believe most people do not consider the power of our thoughts keeping us stuck in destructive patterns with our health. This essential piece of the puzzle is important because it helps you understand why you are choosing the fast food instead of the fruits and veggies or sitting on the couch instead of exercising.
First, really think about it and ask yourself the most important health question: Why do you want to be healthy? Next, ask yourself: What happens once you achieve your why?
Lets give an example: You decide to lose 30 pounds for a...
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